6 How beautiful and pleasant you are,
O loved one, with all your delights!- SOS 7:6

I want to encourage married couples to read Song of Solomon together. God is not silent about sex in the Bible, and SOS protrays the awesome love between a husband and a wife who are free to enjoy eachother’s body. When you read this book you’ll realize how much they love one another. They only have eyes for their spouse and they don’t have a boring sex life. Today’s culture of hook up, shack up, and then break up will never understand this love.  This verse in chapter 7 is part of a section where the husband is describing all his wife’s beautiful features, and I’m not talking about some g-rated hallmark card kind of way. He is in complete love with this women. There is no time he compares her to another women. She is his only standard of beauty. In chapter 8, the bride’s friends ask her what advice to give her friend who feels like they are not beautiful. Here is what the bride says in bold:

We have a little sister,
 and she has no breasts.
What shall we do for our sister
on the day when she is spoken for?
9 If she is a wall,
we will build on her a battlement of silver,
but if she is a door,
we will enclose her with boards of cedar.

She

10 I was a wall,
and my breasts were like towers;
then I was in his eyes
as one who finds peace.

 

To her, it didn’t matter what others thought of her, because her husband made her feel beautiful, told her she was beautiful. Here is how you apply this as a husband, if your wife is tall and skinny, then she is your standard of beauty.If your wife is shorter or more curvy, then that is what your idea of sexy is. Lust after your wife right now! Do It! Romance her and make her feel like the bride in the book of Song of Solomon.

     I love my wife, and we enjoy eachother to the glory of God. In  my eyes she’s my standard. My idea of beauty is Robin at 30,40,50, and whatever age stage we are in. There is no time that it is right to trade your wife in on a “newer version” Men need to start stepping up. This is my offical Christian advice on this matter:

Be Faithful

Tell her she’s beautiful

Lust after her

Romance her

And have lots and lots of sex(nothing that will shame either partner,but enjoy each other, try new things, God is glorified when husband and wife enjoy each other)

Don’t get mad at me, Read the book, and see how married sex can be the best sex. God is awesome!